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12 Ways to Turn Your Crippling Stress into Happiness

12 Ways to Turn Your Crippling Stress into Happiness

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“More smiling, less worrying. More compassion, less judgment. More blessed, less stressed. More love, less hate.” ~Roy Bennett

You are a slave to stress.

I can relate. Stress crushed my life and dreams.

I started a business and faced intense criticism over this decision.

Everyone was sure I’d fail. My friends and family attacked me while I was combating my self-doubt.

My stress level was insanely high.

Then the worst happened. My business failed and I lost all my savings. I was crushed.

It took a long time to finally accept this failure.

Today, whenever I work, stress still lingers in my body like the shadow of my dark past. But now I know how to cope with it. Let me teach you how.

1. Consider getting a pet.

Sharing negative feelings with close friends can significantly reduce stress. Studies show that spending time with pets relieves stress in the same way. Also, when accompanied by a pet in stressful situations, it prevents your stress level from rising.

I have a cat. He was my only friend when nobody was supporting me. I’m grateful to have him by my side.

If you don’t have a pet, consider getting one. It may change your life in surprising ways.

2. Stop dwelling on your problems.

Kant State University had an eye-opening discovery. The more you talk about your problems, the more you’re likely to suffer from depression.

Of course, it’s healthy to share what you’re going through. But when you’re mindlessly dwelling on your problems, it doesn’t solve anything.

I never talk to anyone about my problems because no one supports me. This propels me to actively seek solutions instead of blindly mulling over things that could stress me out.

If you’re fortunate to have supportive friends, do seek their support. What’s important is that you don’t just whine about your difficulties, but act.

3. Shower yourself with gifts.

You’re being brutally hard on yourself.

You take success for granted. Worse, you exaggerate failure.

When you’ve reached a goal, you move on nonchalantly. If you don’t, you torment yourself mentally. You scold, devalue, and deprive yourself.

I’ve been there. I know this is self-destructive.

Reward yourself for reaching goals. Research shows that when you’re rewarded for an action, you will likely repeat it. This is called a positive feedback loop. It’s much more effective than punishment.

If you gain stress from failure, without happiness from success, the only outcome is stress.

If you earn happiness from success, without stress from failure, the only outcome is happiness.

4. Exploit bad habits to your advantage.

I used to run away from problems. When stress hit, I’d instantly give up on whatever I was working on and resort to escapism.

You may have experienced this too.

Escapism may entail over-eating, indulging in unhealthy foods, TV, Internet, porn, smoking, and drinking. Over time, they form destructive habits.

Exploit escapism by using it as an anchor.

Pick healthy alternatives, such as meditation, stretching, listening to motivational talks, napping, or light exercises.

Before you escape, do thirty seconds of an alternative first.

Say you’re angry with your boyfriend. You think you need to eat some junk food to calm down. Before that, meditate for thirty seconds. Then you’re free to indulge.

Do this for two months. Then increase good habit time weekly, until the good habit completely drowns out the bad.

This way, I built new automatic responses to stress and broke my escapist habits completely. Now when I feel stressed, I either take a short nap or move along to uplifting music.

After a few minutes, I’m recharged and motivated to face new challenges.

5. Unleash your anger (and cry yourself to sleep).

Don’t always try to appear perfectly calm. You need to express difficult emotions—anger, for example.

Discuss your frustration with friends. Journal your rage and analyze it objectively on paper. You can even confront the object of frustration assertively.

Remember to keep your anger under control. Don’t throw tantrums or yell impulsively. Express it as a means of problem-solving.

This applies to other difficult emotions, as well, like sadness. It’s healthy to express these “negative” emotions.

6. Reach great heights by letting yourself suck big time.

I’ve learned to accept my devastating failure. I have to. Otherwise, I’d be destroyed and discouraged from pursuing anything ever again.

Some people cannot accept mistakes. Everything has to be perfect from the start. They think others will look down on them if they appear to be flawed.

These people are frequently stressed.

The happiest and most successful people focus on improvement. They love mistakes and flaws because they see them as opportunities to grow.

Learn from these people.

Have lofty goals but have realistic standards. Don’t judge yourself based on the results of your actions. See them as feedback and seek improvement from there.

7. Be shameless about not doing things.

You don’t have the time and energy to do everything you want to do.

Inevitably, things are left undone, and you beat yourself up. This creates stress.

Consider what’s truly important to you. Kill the rest shamelessly.

This way, you gain more time and control over your life while making more progress.

I focus only on my career and my relationships. I’ve postponed other ambitions, like becoming a martial artist and a calligrapher, because they’re comparatively unimportant.

8. Declare war on useless crap.

I’m clearing up my apartment. It’s now clean and spacious. When I’m inside, I feel more relaxed, concentrated, and in control.

Psychologists found that clutter competes for your attention and overloads your brain. This makes you stressed and even damages your ability to think.

Trash this useless crap ruthlessly.

Begin with discarding one item per day, for two months. It’s easy, and it trains you to detach emotionally from your possessions. Later, you can expand to junk more items daily.

9. Learn how to use your body wisely.

I always keep my back straight and try to appear confident.

Why? Because posture has a direct relationship with your mood and behaviour.

When you position your body naturally and comfortably, you feel less stressed.

Also, when you appear confident, you feel more powerful and in control. Confidence balances out stress.

Read books on correct posture and body language. These skills not only reduce stress reliably, they also keep your body healthy.

10. Extract everything from your overloaded head.

When your mind is overloaded, you feel agitated, you malfunction, and then you collapse.

Extract all your mind clutter in one place, out of your head.

Observe your thoughts for five to fifteen minutes, and let information resurface from your mind.

You’ll be surprised how much stuff pops up. Things you have to do, things you’re waiting to do, open loops, creative ideas, long-term plans, and many more.

Write down everything as soon as they come up, no matter how trivial they may seem.

This helps organize your life and clears even the smallest mind clutter. When you can see everything on paper, you’ll find them more actionable. Life becomes less overwhelming.

I prefer pen and paper for this. A sophisticated to-do system works too, but avoid spending too much time on that. You might create stress in the process.

11. Learn from the Chinese: the spectator’s eyes.

Stressed people are masters at exaggeration. They magnify every little problem.

You can’t see the big picture when caught up in a problem. Then you begin to exaggerate and freak out.

A Chinese saying goes, “The spectator’s eyes are always clear.

Ask a friend for his honest opinion on your problems. This will likely help you recognize when something truly isn’t a big deal. Learn from spectators, and analyze your problems objectively. Then you can see problems as they are, and act wisely.

12. Laugh: Meet apocalypse with humor.

I watch comedies a lot. They give me a brief escape from my stressors.

One day I had a revelation.

Visualize these scenarios: bombing a job interview, getting fired, being unemployed, getting robbed, getting sued, and getting rejected by the opposite sex.

Disasters. But they’re all funny in comedies. There’s something funny in every problem.

Maybe you burned your food. Maybe you dropped your phone into the toilet. Laugh!

Once you can do this, you’ll completely turn your perspective around. You’ll see the positive in every situation, and face problems happily.

This Second, You Can Transform Stress Into Happiness

It’s not impossible. Many people have done it.

Pick one lesson that looks appealing to you, do some research on it, and then act.

You’ve let stress dominate you long enough. Now is the time to live differently.

Do you want to stay crippled by stress? Or do you want to turn life into happiness?

The choice is yours.

Credits: This article was originally published on https://tinybuddha.com/blog/12-ways-to-turn-your-crippling-stress-into-happiness/?fromterm=4985

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